Knowing oneself is a task so vast and exciting that takes us a lifetime. When you think you know your reactions, defects and limitations one day you hear or read something that makes you realize that there is something beyond our control. Something like this happened a few days ago as a silly, watching an episode of the American series "How I Met Your Mother." One of the players named the syndrome of neglect and, suddenly, in my brain I heard a click. Thousands of pieces add up to me suddenly. Some research in specialized sources and discovered more than expected.
short, this syndrome affects people who have felt abandoned by a family member or a former partner. Come on, I think that profile come to 80% of the company pulling in a low but I guess the issue is that some of us will sink more than others. The fact is that abandonment occurs when the subject decides it's her fault, which has a dark side that will eventually move away from it all over the world. It is therefore anxious to show their relationships, first wanting to please the other too much and the minimum (a canceled appointment, a bad face ...) believe that another person has discovered a downside and it is going to leave. This, of course, creates both brutal coming even cause the rejection to be avoided. Also not everyone supports equally well the pressure of having someone beside you constantly asked what's wrong or riding a tragedy if one day you went wrong at work and have a dog face.
know that happens to me has been liberating. Suddenly, images flashed through my head all my life and I saw again and again making the same mistake without knowing what he was doing wrong. It was very clear to me, I was in which Sigourney Weaver bad when you have the alien inside and affects their personality and was a matter of time close to me who discovered it. I thought I had friends I lasted longer because it took longer to see it. Now I got rid of the alien and I've taken pressure off the blame for everything that happens in my social relations have to be me. It's great not to be a bug!.
The downside is that it will not be easy to get rid of a behavior that I have so internalized. At least I get notice of when my perception is deceiving me and I begin to feel unsafe for fear of abandonment. I have no clear if it is to eradicate any trace of the syndrome and not get overwhelmed me because now I know what I faced.
So I encourage you all to ye felt abandoned some time in their lives once released from your shoulders the heavy burden of responsabilizaros for it. That person lost someone as wonderful as you and still unsure all we get is that others who want to get closer we get tired of our questions. If we're going to have to pay ourselves the rest of our lives, we love ourselves a bit more!.
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